I recall about 8 years ago, my wife and I had a couple of disagreements, and it took two to three valuable days of my life and being able to connect with her. We argued over silly things, and I got offended when she told me how she felt. I was not very understanding and took a defensive stance when we exchanged words. I recall saying words like, “I have to stand up for myself” and “If you said that to me I would not get upset”. I also recall just not being able to get on the “same page” with her, even though I knew what needed to happen to get connected. Resistance inside was at an all-time high, let me tell you.